Just recently, I preached a sermon about the search for self-worth and validation. I showed ten ways people often seek this out. The sermon is taken from the story of Rachel and Leah from Genesis 29 & 30. Rachel and Leah were sisters who shared Jacob as a husband. Leah and Rachel both lacked a sense of self-worth. Leah was the sister who wasn’t the favorite wife. She wasn’t as pretty as Rachel and was driven to earn her husband’s love and respect by having children. Rachel had the opposite problem. She was pretty and had Jacob’s love, but wasn’t able to bear him any children. She struggled with her barrenness and felt inadequate as a woman. The sermon can be heard here.
I, like Rachel and Leah, have struggled with my self-worth as well. These 10 points below are not just true of Rachel and Leah, but also of me, and I’m sure of you too. I have allowed what other people think of me dictate my value before God. This has led to many depressing days over the years. This lack of self-worth has even led me to feel jealous, resentful and angry towards others. When we measure our self-worth by our standards we will always fall short.
There is only but one true way to measure self-worth that has any redeeming value. Only the gospel can add the true value and validation that our souls crave. The gospel is the only satisfying measuring stick of self-worth anyone will ever need. May He add to you the knowledge of your worth before him. This worth is based in who we are in Christ. The gospel tells us that we are fully loved, approved and accepted because of Christ. We are valuable not because of what we do, but because of what He has done to us, for us and through us. You and I are the image bearers of God. We are created in His image and exist for His glory.
10 Ways We Wrongly Seek Self-Worth
1. The search for worth is often rooted from within our own misery (Genesis 29:32)
2. The search for worth is often in what we think we deserve. (Genesis 29:33)
3. The search for worth is often dictated from our own success or lack thereof. (Genesis 29:34)
4. The search for worth often has us jealous of others (Genesis 30:1)
5. The search for worth often has us blaming others (Genesis 30:1-2)
6. The search for worth often has us validate ourselves through others. (Genesis 30:3-8)
7. The search for worth often has us try to one-up others. (Genesis 30:9-13)
8. The search for worth often has us go to illogical extremes. (Genesis 30:14-16)
9. The search for worth often has apart from the grace of God. (Genesis 30:17-18)
10. The search for worth often has its value in the gifts rather than the giver. (Genesis 30:19-21)
The Getty’s have a fantastic song on self-worth that I just came across. Great song!